Mommys time for Operation Cleanse: The road to My Wellness Solution

 

I discovered My Wellness Solution through a friend. This place is heaven for an educated diva. If you love to pamper but are educated consumer ie you like fitness and make healthy choices while  shopping for your family in the supermarket, this place is for u.   Below I posted a video with sisters and owners of the heaven lol.

 

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I have had two colonics and a facial at the bronx location. Im looking to forward to trying more things on the menu. fyi. they are always hosting a sale…www.mywellnesssolutions.com

 

 

 

Rules for handling a friend with Miscarriage

I love surfing the web and finding cool mommy things. This mother Carissa is rated on @topmommyblogs her site is www.carissashaw.com  and I reposted her write up because it really hit home this week. My best friend had a healthy baby boy and at the same time my neighbor had a miscarriage. GOOD READ

What Not to Say

1. Don’t try to say there must be some purpose for this. What purpose could there possibly be for something so awful? Eventually the person/family can find ways to use the experience to bring about positive change in their lives. But soon after a loss is not a good time to be talking about there being a “purpose.” A parent may express that they want to use the tragedy for good in the future, but let them say those things; you should not.

2. Don’t suggest that the parents look at the positive side of things. Let people feel what they need to feel.

3. Don’t say anything about the baby being in a better place. That is true, but the family left to grieve the loss is not better off.

4. Do not say things like “don’t worry, you’ll have another baby.” Ok, seriously? First of all, you do not KNOW that for sure. Secondly, the baby that was lost was important. It cannot be replaced by any other child. Don’t pretend that a loss can be “fixed” by a different child.

5. Do not say anything that sounds like you are blaming the mother. “Were you not eating right, maybe?” “Maybe you were too stressed?” “Do you think it would be good to lose some weight before you try again?” “You know, your body may just be getting too old to carry a child.” Stop. Just STOP. These ignorant statements are so incredibly damaging. If you don’t have true encouragement to offer then just shut the yapper.

6. “At least now you know you can get pregnant!” I feel more mildly about this one that some of the others. For me, it actually was in my mind (even as I was losing my baby) that I was still relieved that I did get pregnant in the first place. This is because it took six years to get pregnant with our first child. The second pregnancy came much quicker, which was a relief. But still, this is not something that someone else should be suggesting to a person who has just lost their baby.

7. “At least you weren’t very far along.” I was 11 weeks pregnant when I miscarried. To some, that may not sound like I was “very far” along. But 11 weeks means I was nearly 1/3 of the way through my pregnancy. 11 weeks meant I quite literally went into labor to deliver a dead baby. 11 weeks meant almost three months of connecting with the little life growing in me… months of morning sickness and pregnancy exhaustion… months of thinking of names… moments of excitement sharing the news with family… 11 weeks and then it was over. It doesn’t matter if a mother is 5 weeks, 11 weeks, or 20 weeks when she loses her baby; her baby has died and she is hurting. We all process grief differently and might have some different feelings depending on how far into the pregnancy we were when it ends. But please do not discount a mother and fathers pain by counting the weeks of the baby’s life.

What to Say

1. I’m sorry. This sucks. It isn’t fair.

2. How are you feeling? This is a good question because depending on how the person is feeling about sharing their feelings they can say very little or they can say a lot. Don’t push it, just listen.

3. Guys, think of the husband too. It is important to know that the dad is struggling too. Send a text, make a phone call, send a Facebook message and let him know you’re there for him.

4. Scripture and comforting poems can be useful.

I know this is a tough thing. You may feel like you’re just at a loss for words. That’s ok. Your words, no matter how heart-felt and profound, will never fix what has happened. Mere words will not replace what has been lost. Let that knowledge take the pressure off of you so you can just reach out with love and concern.

What to Do

1. Send a text, a Facebook message, or maybe even make a phone call to say you love them and are praying for them. No advice. Nothing intrusive. Just reach out. You don’t need to know what to say. Just communicate that you care.

2. Head to the grocery store and call (maybe call the husband or close family member if the mother is still suffering physically) or send a text to ask what they need. Toilet paper? Paper towels? Bread, milk, snacks? Don’t ask “can I bring you anything?” Say “I’m out now at the store to get some things for you so you don’t have to go out. Any suggestions?”

3. Make a meal and drop it off. Call first to find out if they have any food preferences. If they already have meals for that day then make a freezer meal for them to use when they need it.
Sidebar: When making a meal…
1. Use disposable containers and let the family know they do not need to return them.
2. Make a main dish, one or two sides, and dessert.
3. Consider also making up a nice basket of items for the next morning such as bagels and cream cheese, muffins, biscuits, fruit, a bottle of juice, etc.

4. Send flowers and a card. Some people don’t like flowers, so think of an alternative like Edible Arrangements, cookie bouquet, box of chocolates, etc. Another great idea would be a card with a gift card in it. I received a sympathy card and a spa gift card and that was such a nice surprise for me as I was experiencing a difficult miscarriage.

5. Listen. Most parents experiencing loss are actually more interested in talking about the loss than some may think. We want to remember our little one. We need to share our feelings. I don’t want to pretend this didn’t happen to me.

6. Encourage mutual friends to reach out. This depends on how public the news of the miscarriage is. If it is appropriate, encourage mutual friends, co-workers, etc. to do things such as those listed above to show support and love for the grieving parents.

7. Adjust your expectation. Don’t put any pressure on the parents to do anything extra too soon after the loss. Ease up your expectations of them as a friend, boss, co-worker, family member, etc. Put their feelings first.

8. Don’t exclude your friend from social invitations, play dates, etc. They may say no if they’re not emotionally up to participating, but being excluded hurts.

9. Continued support is critical. One thing that most people don’t think about is the grief and sadness that continues. Marking the would have been birth month is tough. The medical bills that continue to come in the mail… like a knife to the heart. Offer continued support in any way you can.

10. If you are an employer, be aware of your employees financial situation. Help with their medical bills in any way you can. Allow other employees to donate sick time.

“I’m pregnant and I don’t know how to tell my friend who had a miscarriage.” I hear this question a lot. DO NOT let your friend hear about your pregnancy from anyone other than you. Take your friend to lunch to talk (or call on the phone if you’re not living close to each other) and share your pregnancy news. Is it awkward? Yes. But if you care about your friend you’ll face the difficult situation and be a good friend. In most cases she will genuinely be very happy for you and really appreciate you telling her personally.

Stage Moms: What Not to do at a Casting Call

Having a good audition is the only way to ensure that you will book an acting gig. Whether you are auditioning or your child is auditioning, there are certain rules of decorum that you will need to take into consideration.

An audition is similar to a job interview. There are number of things that you need to be aware of before ever setting foot in a casting room. Additionally, you need to be sure to properly prepare your child on how to behave.If you are a parent to a child actor, be aware that you are being judged as well. Casting directors want to know right off the bat that if they hire your child that you will be easy to work with as well. While you can only prepare your child’s performance so much before they set foot into the casting office, there are a number of things you can do to help increase the quality of their audition and the likelihood that they’ll get the part.

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Here are a few Don’t Dos:

Steer Clear of Chewing Gum – Although it seems obvious, you would be amazed at the number of kids who walk into a casting office snapping their chewing gum. Now, unless chewing gum is an actual character choice you and your child have decided upon, this is not something that will go over well with a casting director.

Don’t Avoid Eye Contact – When you teach your child about how to behave in a casting room, make certain that they understand both proper etiquette and how to make eye contact with the casting director.

This doesn’t mean a scene should be entirely played out while looking at the casting person, but when your child introduces themselves, they should make direct eye contact, have confidence and be confident in who they are as people.

Don’t Overdo It – Your child should do three things when they enter a casting room. 1) They should clearly say hello and make eye contact with everyone in the room. Keep in mind, more than likely they won’t need to mention their name as everyone in the room (if there is more than one person) is expecting your child to enter. 2) They should perform their scene. 3) They should say “thank you” and good bye and exit the room. They shouldn’t ask how they did, or when to expect a call back, or any such question. The casting director will find them if they need to.

Don’t Make Excuses – Everyone makes mistakes in auditions — this is completely expected and natural. Casting directors are often quite patient and understand that the actors performing for them might be quite nervous (especially those who are first timers). Although it is okay to ask to start over if you make a mistake, avoid making excuses. Casting directors will usually prefer that you just keep going.

Parents in particular — NEVER MAKE EXCUSES FOR YOUR CHILD. Even if their poor performance is a direct result of something you did. Assume every casting director you meet has not only heard every excuse in the book dozens (if not hundreds) of times, they won’t care. They simply have too many other potential candidates to see and wasting time listening to your lame excuses why little Jimmy (Timmy, Donny, Robbie, insert your child’s name here) doesn’t know his/her lines is not something any casting director wants to do.

Unless specifically requested, don’t bring other siblings – A casting session is usually set up for one particular type of child. Your bringing your kid’s brother or sister because you “think” the casting director may want to meet them will almost guarantee that your child will not be considered. Focus your attention on the child you’ve chosen to bring and that’s it.

If the casting director asks about your other children, then you can speak about them. But unless they DIRECTLY mention that they want to see them, chances are they are simply making conversation to make you and/or your child feel more at ease.

Avoid bringing overly tired or wired children to auditions – If your child is simply too tired, wired or even suffering from a cold, you’re better off passing on the audition all together rather than hoping to “suffer through it.” It certainly won’t help your child’s chances with this particular job and it might hinder their chances at getting other work because the casting director who sees your whiny/wired child will remIf your child dreams of an acting career then I encourage you to go for it. But to help better their chances of actually landing something, be sure to take these tips into consideration.ember their behavior more than their performance.

Never coach or scold your children in front of a casting director – One almost certain way to ensure your child fails to get an acting job is to instruct them or scold them in the presence of a casting director. This is often cited as the most uncomfortable moments of any casting directors careers, so avoid it whenever possible.

Acting as a child should be fun and VOLUNTARY. If you find that you are living vicariously through your child and forcing them to do something they don’t have any interest in, understand that a casting director will more than likely pick up on this sooner rather than later. Casting directors are looking for those parents who will serve in more of a “silent partner” capacity for their children and root for them from behind the scenes.

 

 

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